Air Mai - Under the Surface

Everything is transactional. He makes his remarks about taking care of me and doing XYZ but that’s what you're supposed to do in a marriage. I don’t know how else to say that. That’s what you're supposed to do. No questions asked. You shouldn’t want   in return, except for the other person to feel better, but it’s never that way and it always turns back into I never give anything. Ok, so you cleaned the dished and "cleaned" the house and made me tea and took care of Charlie...ok, that's my norm. I don't demand or expect to be PRAISED for it. A simple thanks is good enough. No fanfare needed.   "And yes. Everything about the way Charlie acts IS all your fault because he controls you. You don't control him." Ouch. Yes, he has me wrapped around his little finger, but him acting like a jerk to you is NOT my fault. You get all upset and bent out of shape that I don't "talk you up" to him like you do to me. "Charlie, isn't mommy ...

CHarlie was kicking and hitting K and not listening so I came over and said I will take away his marbles if he does it again. He said ok. I said give daddy a hug and kiss and he didn't. I was walking away and K got on me that he is this way because of me because I'm walking away and not making him follow up on what I told him to do. I was like whatever and he kept going (I could tell by his crazed eyes we hit "Bull seeing red" zone) and he was getting amped and I literally said "SHUT IT!" You can imagine how THAT went over... WHAT DID YOU SAY TO ME? And stormed downstairs yelling "You don't know how fucking crazy you sound." or something to that effect. So I'm like BYE! And, kept making dinner. I was planning to get him after I was done and he came up before then. I was going to talk to him and he was walking by and he got in my face and said "That is the LAST time you will fucking talk to me like that." And, I scoffed. And I'...