Semi Other Shoe Drop?

We had tickets to the Polar Express train ride last night. When he came home, he seemed "off" to me. He claims I was the one giving the vibe. But, literally, the FIRST thing he said was "oh, mommy's already in her PJs" but it was with this "disgusted" tone. That's not the word, but kinda felt that way. Disbelief? Annoyance? IDK. Additional comments from home and on the train. 

  • Could you have picked a hotter day to do this?
  • These pants DON'T have pockets?!
  • You're not actually going to buy us new PJs every year? He's going to grow out of them
  • You can't find the tickets AGAIN
  • You'd think they could have cleaned the train or decorated it?
I was trying to chit chat on the drive, but he wasn't really receptive. But I pretended life was fine. On the train he seemed kinda distant then got more in the groove. But, was a bah humbug. 

So we get home, he smokes and he's good. And, since he wasn't being jerky mooded I tell him he seemed really Grinchy when he got home. He claims it was me. I gave off the vibe and he was just "trying to stay away." But, really, it was the SAME vibe he gave that night he came home and we were going to my Tom's for dinner and I gave him the Friends cards.

Who is "right" in this situation? I mean, did I give off a vibe? I don't think I did. But, did I? I know I felt off during the day and he knew that, but I feel like I got in my groove and life was good.

Grumble

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