Can't Help But SMH

 I really need to start documenting complaints/critiques and balls up and bring them to a certain someone's attention, because YEESH.

I SHOULD be able to talk to my husband, but I can't. He claims I'm "holding onto the past" or "I believe something that isn't true (i.e., that I can't talk to him or whatever)" but historically I know what'll happen. And  I try and shy away from any kind of confrontation.

Anywho - yea. Today I was at my desk and he was asking if I was working and I said "I just need to take care of something." Didn't mean it snarkily, but I guess it came off that way? And, even though. I said I didn't meant it...he got all quiet and huffy.

Then I mentioned putting the potatoes or sprouts in the oven and he was like "why? are we eating soon? I thought we were doing appetizers" kinda with that tone...and I was like, "no, but you always want the sides done before the meat so..." And I heard him sigh and I called him out (jokingly) and he was all grrrr blah blah blah.

Dude needs to chill. I realllllly feel like I RARELY start shit. It's always me being disrespectful. Me being rude. Me doing something to upset and then him holding the grudge. I hope I'm not seeing it differently than it really is...Because sometimes I question if my reality is real...or if he's "right" and things are not as they seem...



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