New Year - New Start?

So end of the year was actually pretty good - no issues/arguments to write home about. So that was a plus. We had a great Christmas. I totally blew presents out of the water this year - so he was pretty happy (seeing as last year was a fucking shitshow of shit because I got him everything he told me he wanted and nothing that I thought of on my own...still not sure WTF with that one). His gifts to me were ok. Shoes I wanted and new perfume, then some other stuff that was more for the house. But, all good. I don't care. 

He was very relaxed most of the time. And, when he was anxious, it was because of having to go back to work. But he WASN'T the typical anxious, asshole, narcitude that seemed to be the norm.  So that was a breath of relief. However, I then started worrying that when he went back to work, the old K would return.

Day 1. 1 hour and 15 minutes into him being home, he's already got the attitude going on. I noticed a tinge of it when he said "UPS was here again? Why didn't you get the door?" He was then playing with Charlie and asked where the marbles were. I said in the box on the shelf. Gets all huffy and rolls his eyes, "noooo, I told you, those are the new ones." I said I'm pretty sure mom said she put them in there. Again, with the obvious frustration. I repeated and I got the, "yes, I heard you. You've only said the same thing 4x already." Ooooookkkkk.

Grumpily sits on the chair and I asked if he was ok, he said yea just frustrated. I asked at Charlie or me. "Why would I be frustrated with YOU?! I said ok, thank you for clarifying, just wanted to make sure. Because I at least need to know that much since he seems to change on a dime when I do something "against" him. 

I REALLY hope this is just me being hypersensitive and focused on what may or may not be. Ya know? Not trying to manifest bad, but I just want to be aware. And, not turn a blind eye. I told him my resolution was to be more open with him and call him out on BS when it happens. He said he was glad about that. We shall see.

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