Because things had been going too well...

Took mom to Classic Honda on Saturday and he told me NOT to let her sign anything. Well, she wound up putting a $500 deposit down through a car guy named Mitch (super nice) to secure the car. Non-refundable. K, however, was talking to a different guy and got a lower price. Didn't mention the $500 because I figured it was through Classic so it'd transfer.

Last night Mitch calls and K plays the "is that the best you can do" card. He said yes. He said OK we're going through a different person. So he's getting things set with this other guy, same dealership, and called me today to say we need to go put a $500 deposit down. So I brought it up that mom already did...SHIT HIT THE FAN.

He started whisper yelling at me (because he's at work) and saying that I lied to him and if I know sooooo much more than him, then we should handle it. He's done. "What language do you need to hear 'don't sign anything' for you to understand?!" I said I'm sorry, I thought because it was going to be through the dealership anyway it wasn't a big deal. 

I lied to him. I went against his words when he specifically told me NOT to do something. He was so angry. SO fucking angry. Like seething. I could feel it through the phone. And, when he told me to find out what mom wants to do, she called him and he didn't answer because "mama is calling me right now, and Im not in any shape to talk to her."  said she was just called to discuss the situation. "Nothing to discuss in my opinion. You do stuff behind my back so you can take care of it. I talk to those people and now I look like an idiot."

It wasn't intentional. I didn't mean anything. But, man. Like I said the ANGER. The seething. I was bawling my eyes out. I got it together but when I called mom, I just lost it. He gets SO ANGRY and I am SO SCARED when he's upset. Not that I'm afraid he'll hurt me (physically) but he is just so intense and so ANGRY. 

Christ, I'm crying just typing this, lol. Man, what happened to the tough-as-nails bitch that used to intimidate the hell out of people!? Sigh.

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