The Non-Apology Email...

 Writing to you today because I think it’s easier to do then say.

Let me start that I love you more that you can ever image. But  for the longest time I feel extremely lonely. I haven’t been sleeping well for past two weeks, I am physically and mentally exhausted. Work has been brutal lately and then I come home and its not much better there either.
To add to the frustration every time I try to have conversation with you about anything, you made a small change for few days and then is back to square one. How many times past few years I have been telling you same stuff, I am lonely, not appreciated and feel like you just simply don’t care anymore.
I am trying my best to be the best father for Charlie and best husband for you, but even from him I get very little back. I can count on my one hand how many times he came to me to give me a hug or told me that he loves me with out me asking.
When I came home yesterday and was playing with Charlie downstairs I told him “synek I missed you” his response “I didn’t miss you daddy” Hy heart sunk.
Last night you came to bad. You laid down, not a single word, not a kiss all you did was put your hand on my arm.
I am not giving up on us. I will never do. You are my wife, my love, my partner and my co capitan. But I do need more compassion from you my love, I want to feel loved, appreciated and wanted.
Kocham Cie Bardzo Mocno Kochanie Moje.

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